"Not only does shame hurt, it also is the chief cause of a huge problem in adults who have ADD, namely the inability to feel good about their achievements. It is common for ADD adults to be all but impervious to positive remarks. Whatever they have legitimately achieved they feel must have been done by someone else, or by accident.
One of the main reasons adults with ADD can’t take pleasure in their own successes and creations is, simply, shame. They feel too ashamed to feel good. They feel too defective to feel nourished. They feel it is practically immoral to feel proud of themselves. Healthy pride is such an alien emotion that they have to look back into the dim recesses of their childhoods to find the last time they felt proud of themselves, if they can find an instance even then."
Edward Hallowell, M.D. Delivered from Distraction.
I quit working like 2 hours ago. So I decided to just go to bed. But I am terrible at going to bed. So I picked up the book the lady at UHS gave me. And then I started sobbing, because of it. This part prompted quite a few tears.UGH.
"I believe that a negative statement is poison. The air between you and me is filled with sounds and images. If that were not so, how is it that I can turn on a television right now and see what’s happening in New York? That means sounds and images are in the air, crowded, jammed up like bats. And Oprah, I’m convinced that the negative has power. It lives. And if you allow it to perch in your house, in your mind, in your life, it can take you over. So when the rude or cruel thing is said—the lambasting, the gay bashing, the hate—I say, “Take it all out of my house!” Those negative words climb into the woodwork and into the furniture, and the next thing you know they’ll be on my skin."
— Maya Angelou to Oprah on rudeness, negative comments, racism, homophobia (via lordbape)